No More Excuses! It’s Time To Heal Yourself!

“Excuses are lies wrapped up in reasons.”- Howard Wright

No More Excuses! It's Time To Heal Yourself!
No More Excuses! It’s Time To Heal Yourself!

When people find out how I eat, I usually get one of two reactions. The most common reaction is typically an attack against me. People will say things to me like, “How can you eat like that?!” “I’d rather die happy than eat like that!”, or “That’s such a pain in the butt (cleaned that up for you)!”. The other reaction is excuses like, “ I should eat healthier, but……(insert excuse here).”, “My condition is different. I don’t think that would help me.”, or “ I’m not willing to give up ________ because I don’t believe it’s hurting me.” This list could go on forever! I really think I’ve heard it all.

Now, you may think the attacks on my way of living are not excuses; but, they actually are. They are excuses in an attack form. You see, some people will attack things they fear. Instead of admitting they don’t have the willpower or control to improve their health through diet and lifestyle changes, they attack others for having that power. It’s like an excuse, wrapped in barbed wire! In some way, others’ success amplifies their failure.

It’s those of you who use excuses because you’re afraid of failure that my heart truly goes out to. You’re the ones I strive to help everyday because I honestly believe you can do it. I say this because I’m just like you. I’m not some superhuman who has willpower of steel, or the ability to mentally destroy temptations. I’m just a person who became more afraid of sickness and death.

So, I urge you today, stop with the excuses. Make it today that you actually start improving your health! Make your LIFE a priority!

No More Excuses! It's Time To Heal!
Is this you? Excuses will keep you here!

In order to give you a little nudge, I’m going to list the top excuses I hear, and how I squash them. I am a super excuse annihilator; so, I guess I do have one superpower. LOL!

1.   “I’d rather die happy than eat like that!” – Me: “Did you say die happy or sooner?” I know it’s kind of snarky; but, sometimes I just can’t help myself.

2.   “ I want to try the AIP, but I just can’t give up ___________ (just so you know, the #1 food people have a problem giving up is coffee. Alcohol is second.).” – Me: “ It was really hard for me to give up coffee and Tabasco, too. But, I told myself I would give them up for only 30 days to follow the AIP. Then, I would try to reintroduce them back into my diet. Well, as it worked out, I felt so much better after 30 days, I wasn’t ready to rush into reintroductions. When I finally did reintroduce coffee, I was successful. But, I failed miserably with the Tabasco. You know what though, I really don’t even miss it anymore. It’s amazing how less obsessed I am with certain foods now. It’s not foods that make me happy, it’s feeling good instead .”

3.   “ I don’t have the time to cook all my meals.” – Me: “ So, you don’t have an hour or two, a couple of times a week, to batch cook all your meals for the week? That’s really all it takes. I usually just set aside a few hours a week to cook enough foods to last me for a couple of weeks. I also keep some no-cook foods on hand for times when things get hectic. I also pre-cut a few days worth of veggies and fruits. That way, when I need them, I don’t have to waste time chopping everything. I would also say to invest in either an Instant Pot or slow cooker. These cooking tools make cooking meals a snap.”

4.   “ It’s so expensive!” – Me: “ It may seem that way in the beginning; but, you’ll actually find it’s cheaper than buying takeout or dining out. Plus, stores like Costco and Sam’s Club are starting to carry more paleo and AIP approved foods at a substantial discount. And, of course, there’s always Amazon, where you can order many of your AIP staples at a discount.”

5.   “ My family is not on board for eating paleo, much less AIP. Am I supposed to cook two different meals every day? I don’t have time for that!” – Me: “ I serve three different meals every night, mine, my dog’s and my husband’s. What works for me, is to batch cook their meals too. I usually make a few meals in my slow cooker for my hubby. I bake several chicken breasts and thighs for my dog and husband to eat throughout the week. You can cook a batch of noodles (I make gluten free), some tomato sauce, meatballs and chicken, and get several meals out of it. It’s so much healthier for them to eat some home cooked foods, too. If you keep fresh fruits and veggies available to them, they will eat them. I don’t provide my family with snacks and treats I don’t approve of. If my husband wants that junk, he can get it on his own. I will not be an enabler of his bad eating habits.”

No More Excuses! It's Time To Heal!
You’ll love cooking up your AIP Paleo foods!

So, these are just a few of excuses I hear. If you want something badly enough, you will make it work. Don’t look at beginning the AIP as having to give up lots of foods. Instead, look at it as a tool to help you feel better and live your life to the fullest. Life is not about giving in to your basic urges all the time. Just because something feels good at the time, doesn’t mean it’s good for you. If you continue to eat foods and make lifestyle choices that are hurting you, aren’t you choosing not to enjoy your life to the fullest? I mean, I’ll take giving up ANYTHING, over living in pain every day, like I was.

Your excuses are useless. They serve no purpose at all. Take today to throw them out! No more excuses! You hold the key to your health in your hands! You are strong enough to do this! Never let anyone tell you anything different, especially yourself. I’m right here with you the entire time!

What’s your excuse? Leave your excuses in the comments. Let’s overcome and throw them away!

As always, I wish you good health…..and, good food!

Tara Perillo

Welcome all. I am Tara Perillo, herbalist, homeopath, yoga and fitness instructor, and healthy foodie . After successfully reaching remission of my lupus symptoms, through changes in my diet, exercise, and lifestyle, I wrote the ebook, Sickness To Fitness Quick Start Guide. I am also honored to have my paleo and AIP recipes featured in Paleo Magazine, Paleo Living Magazine, Shape Magazine Online, 85 Amazing AIP Breakfasts, The Paleo AIP Instant Pot Cookbook, and blogs by The Paleo Mom, Kris Kresser, Whole New Mom and many others. My focus is to help others become stronger in every facet of their lives. Join me to become stronger in health, mind, body, and spirit, together!

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11 Replies to “No More Excuses! It’s Time To Heal Yourself!”

  1. Hi Tara,
    First, a belated happy birthday.
    I have a couple of autoimmune diseases which stay in remission as long as I stick primarily to the AIP, with the addition of a very few things that don’t appear to be the troublemakers.

    I am often amused by some of the comments I get due to the way I eat. I am acquainted with someone who’s a vegan and thinks what I do is extreme. When I heard that I thought I had heard it all. Privately I get the giggles every time I think about that comment.

    Yesterday I heard a comment from someone with psoriasis that she was just at the age where one contracts it and she wasn’t planning to change her diet since 35 was the age that you get it at. How sad is that? She’s very invested in that excuse.

    Food can be such an emotional issue for some people and change so scary that they’re more willing to dig in their heels and stay with the status quo rather that step out boldly and take care of their health. In the grand scheme of things the AIP diet only eliminates about 7 or 8 food groups. There’s an abundance of good, fresh real food to eat. When I’m asked about what I can’t or don’t eat my reply is let me tell you what I do eat and how delicious it is. There’s an abundance of categories to choose from, especially from creative people like you and others that I follow and a few of my own creations.

    “Life is a Banquet” Rosalind Russell as “Auntie Mame”.

    Wishing you many blessing

    1. Hi Cookie, Thank you for the happy birthday wishes! Your comment really resonated with me because I feel the same way. Other than a couple of reintroductions, I stick with following the AIP elimination phase. It’s so funny for a vegan to say your diet is extreme! That’s hilarious! I guess people always look at something different from what their doing as extreme.

      I’m pretty sure the person with the psoriasis you’re talking about made up that information about 35 being the age one gets it at, just to use it as an excuse. That’s a new one on me!

      It’s so true that food is an emotional issue for so many. It’s a tough obstacle to overcome. Even when people see how well you’ve done on the AIP, they are still so afraid of failing. Like you, I try to focus on the foods I can eat. I didn’t even put a list of foods to avoid in my cookbook because I didn’t want people to be discouraged.

      Hopefully, one day, we will be able to get through to everyone who needs to heal. If we just keep doing what we’re doing, and living full lives with our autoimmune disease, eventually more people will get the healing they need. Thanks for doing your part. All we can do is keep spreading the word!

      Blessings to you,
      Tara

  2. Thanks for this post! I get so tired of the endless questioning about my dietary habits on AIP (and also when I was vegetarian then vegan). Heard all their excuses too, had my colleagues fail at tempting me with the garbage food they consume (and cigarettes and alcohol they consume) and even felt a bit ostracised for my lifestyle changes (ah well, their loss). So this post is very timely and made me feel a lot better about my path and choosing health. To avoid this I’ve chosen to not speak of my diet and not eat around colleagues as it’s just not worth hearing their short-sighted opinions over. Thanks again! Love your work!

    1. Thank you, Adam. I’m so happy I could help you feel better about your choices. It’s horrible that you’ve been made to feel bad, just because you had the COURAGE and STRENGTH to take your health into your hands. I know what you mean though. I’ve often felt ostracized and attacked by others who are not on the same path. Sometimes, it can get exhausting. You just have to understand, it all comes from their fear of failure. When you think of it that way, you feel bad for them, more than anything else. Believe me, they’re going to pay for their bad habits eventually. Then, they’ll be coming to you for help! Keep up the good choices. One day, we’ll be the majority; and, others will be looking to us for guidance. We’ll be more than prepared to give it to them.

      Good health to you!
      Tara

  3. I JUST had this conversation with my mom last night! She argued with me through excuses 1-4, exactly as you described them. Now granted she doesn’t have an autoimmune disease but she does need to lose 30-50 lbs. I do remember how hard it was to make these kinds of changes before I was in pain. But I also didn’t have anyone close to me encouraging me. I’m not trying to get her to do paleo-just give up gluten, sugar and all processed foods and she won’t do that! I guess we have to remember that as awful as autoimmune diseases are, we have to be thankful for our bodies demanding that we take better care of ourselves. It’s a blessing in disguise.

    1. Hi Hanna,
      Moms can be tough! Like you, I’ve been trying to get mine to do the same. You’re so right about how suffering from our autoimmune disease gives us a wakeup call. It’s almost as if actually getting that diagnosis makes it easier for us to change our habits and diet. When it’s for weight loss and minor health issues, people have a much harder time accepting change. Don’t stop harping on her! Eventually, when she starts to understand you just want her to be around longer, she may start to take some baby steps to changing her diet. Always lead by example. It’s amazing how when those close to us start seeing our health improving, they suddenly start looking at their own health more closely. Just keep with it.
      Smooches!
      Tara

  4. My bff who has been with me throughout my 3 year journey of RA diagnosis and change to paleo and now AIP is fully aware of how extremely good this way of life has been for me. She was this week diagnosed with IBS and just in one day I heard all those excuses listed above. Her GP even told her she can have a little gluten each week if she wants and to continue drinking alcohol and has put her on anti-anxiety meds!! What can I do?! I told her she should stop all of these, outlining exactly why but unfortunately she thinks it would be too much for her! All she can think of is what she would miss. I find most people cannot get past what we are unable to eat which in the whole scheme of things is for such a short period of time. They don’t seem to get that this is purely an elimination diet and that most people are successful with reintroductions, not that I’ve tried yet and I’ve been strict AIP 9 months now. I’m happy where I’m at but with my recovery having plateaued I have finally found an integrative doctor here in Brisbane and I’m being tested for a couple of other things.
    I rarely speak of my “diet” to anyone anymore as I am so tired of being judged. If someone does ask I now say exactly what I do eat. And the irony of it all is that I’m constantly getting comments on how good my food is!

    1. Hi Amanda,
      I understand how difficult it is to deal with other people’s fear of AIP and bad medical advice. We’re all taught that doctors have been trained to heal us. Problem is, many doctors have not been taught properly how to heal and treat autoimmune and other diseases. Most of the medical schools are run by the pharmaceutical companies, which explains your friend’s doctor putting her on anxiety meds. Medical students are not taught ANYTHING on nutrition. Your friend is simply afraid of failing on the AIP. Just keep stressing to her that there is an entire community of us, who are here to support and encourage her throughout it all. Sometimes, people just need to know there are others out there who are just like them.
      I think it’s awesome that you’ve been strict AIP for 9 months! I’m so happy you’ve found and integrative doctor to work with. It’s good to keep your testing up to date. As you know, autoimmune disease can be so tricky to deal with. There are so many factors that can cause us to plateau or hinder our healing. Many times, following the AIP and improving your health, can force other health problems to surface. It’s our body’s way of making sure we address all of our health concerns. Plus, sometimes we are dealing with damage done to our organs, from before we were diagnosed. As the body repairs itself, new issues can surface. Hopefully, your doctor will be able to address and treat your plateau.
      You are doing all of right things to improve your health. I know it gets exhausting, having to explain your way of life. People tend to attack the things they don’t understand when they first hear of them. It’s just a natural human reaction. When they finally sit down and think about it, they may come to realize it could help them. You will always have those who rebel against your way of life. However, there are also those who you can help. Don’t be afraid to speak of your diet BECAUSE of those you can help. They will make it all worth the struggle.

      Good health and blessings,
      Tara

  5. This is pretty motivating for more than just changing eating habits. You have a great attitude. Thanks for sharing.

  6. My excuse is exhaustion/fatigue/there-isn’t-a-name-for-how-extreme-this-is. I just can not put this into words to truly describe it. The energy required for a 10 minute shower puts me down for 3 days. So when my husband gets home at 7 p.m. I feel like asking him to cook from scratch is just too much after already needing him in so many ways due to the fatigue. I wish my Mom was alive because I know she would take care of me by batch cooking, etc. if I told her how important the AIP is to healing. Not looking to be a whiner. I’m just posting like you asked.

    1. Hi Penni, so sorry to hear about your fatigue. I remember those days well. There were days I couldn’t even muster the energy to get out of bed. If you don’t mind me asking, what foods are you eating? Is there any way you or your husband could make AIP foods for you in a slow cooker, or Instant Pot? Perhaps, if he were to understand that your fatigue could be remedied, he would be more willing to get you the foods that would help. I mean, you’re both on a hamster wheel right now. If you don’t make the changes, how are you expecting to recover? I’m sure you would both be so much healthier and happier, than if you keep going the way you are. When I first started the AIP, I remember having to do my batch cooking and prepping in steps. I would do a couple of things, and then sit in a chair in the kitchen to rest. A few minutes later, I would repeat the process. Eventually, my time spent sitting it the chair became less and less. As my energy increased, I was able to make it through a whole cooking session. I guess what I’m trying to say is if you want it badly enough, you will make it work. I hope this is not sounding harsh. I fought really hard to get to where I am now in my healing. I want to inspire you to get that same fight in you. Waiting for other people, or wishing for others to be around to do it all for you is not a part of that fighting spirit. You have to want it! You have to be willing to get it for yourself. Other people may sympathize and coddle you; but, the very idea that you left this comment for me, shows me that deep down inside you have that fighting spirit. Let’s start getting better today, Penni. Show me that fighting spirit! You got this!
      Keep me in the loop. I want to know about each accomplishment you make, no matter how small you think it is. All it takes is one step to start your journey. XOXO

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